Everyone that follows me, has attended any of my seminars, live streams, or been a coaching client knows that I advocate self-care.
Not because it’s some coachy, jargony, cool buzz-word; or because every other coach is talking about it and I think I should be talking about it; or even because there are people who’ve made millions on the subject and I want my cut.
I talk about it because this is a real solution to a real problem that women have in their over-scheduled, over-hectic, over-achieving life styles.
Ladies, we are so busy trying to cram as much life as we can into our days, that we basically give up our right to have a life; we bow to the will of our Siri-Alexa smart phone virtual assistant, and she (like us) continually overbooked our days, nights, and weekends. Hey, I know from personal experience, I’ve been guilty as charged.
But there comes a point in every woman’s life where she just hits that wall. There’s a morning when you wake up, the house is quiet, and you just lay there dreading your whole day of “have-tos”. You dream of Jamaica, The DR, or a cruise to somewhere, anywhere, and can’t remember when you took a vacation, without the kids, without your laptop, without your Siri-Alexa assistant to remind you which way was up. And, then you just feel defeated because you know that trip can’t come anytime soon (or could it?). So you sigh, close your eyes, and try to steal five more minutes of sleep before the alarm goes off, the kids wake, your honey rolls over, or you start feeling anxious about today’s presentation at work.
But here’s the real on this ladies. Self care isn’t some lofty coachy idea. Self care is what every human being owes themselves if they want to live a long, healthy, and prosperous life. We spend so much time chasing life – aspiring, achieving, acquiring – there is no room to relax, refresh, and recharge.
Studies show that women are more likely to experience physical symptoms of stress than men. Stress can show up in many ways; headaches, back aches, being short-tempered, forgetful, lack of energy, lack of focus, and ultimately, stress can impact your ability to get things done. For some, it even results in a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem, and even have an impact on your relationships.
And, it doesn’t have to be like this! You can take mini self-care vacations every day, or at least a few times a week, to improve your health, emotional and spiritual well-being, and your longevity.
You don’t need to drop everything you are doing and hop on a plan to the Virgin Islands. (Although, I recommend if you are able to do so, go for it!) You can carve out 5 to 30 minutes each day to pause, breath, and honor your needs.
Whether it’s taking a bath, having a coffee, chatting with a girlfriend, reading a book in the park, or journaling at lunch, these mini self-care vacations are the glue that hold you and your life together.
Self care isn’t for sissies! It takes something to set boundaries and honor them. It takes courage to actually require Siri-Alexa to put in a self-care block in your calendar, and often the strength of Wonder Woman to actually honor it!
You can’t pour into others, what you don’t pour into yourself.
Don’t wait until your body is failing, your relationships are in jeopardy, or you forget the big birthday party your child has been going on about for two weeks. You don’t have to walk out of the meeting, get into a fight with your man, or go on strike at home until the laundry covers the top floor of your house.
You can simply carve out a few minutes each day, or a few days a week, to honor yourself, your needs, your body, your mind, and your spirit, in a way that fills you up and restores your soul.
Take the time, any time to begin to pay yourself first. Even if all you can start with is one minute a day, then claim that minute with vigor and victory. Protect that time as if your life depended on it. And for some of us ladies, it might.
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