As a single-mom, we often get so caught up in playing mommy (and for some of us daddy too) that we don’t take time to see ourselves as anything other than a mom. We are very in touch with the nurturing, maternal side of our femininity, but not the womanly, sensual, sexy side of our femininity. Part of being an empowered woman, an irresistible woman, is taking the time to acknowledge your femininity outside of motherhood.
It’s hard for us to be the provider, the cook, the maid, the secretary, the chauffer, the soccer-mom, and the mommy who kisses boo-boos all in one day; for some of us all in one hour! It can get crazy sometimes – Ask me how I know this?! And then, turn around and be the vixen, the goddess, the fem-fatal, who looks like Venus, and seduces men with just one glance. And in all honesty, who are we kidding, most women are just too tired to even thing about any of that. Even women I know who are married, say their favorite activity is sleep when they do not have their children — and by sleep they do not mean “sex with their husbands.” They mean sleep for hours at a time no interruption and no one to tell them when they have to wake up.
The first thing is as acknowledge that you want it and on some level we actually need it. Dr. Phil once stated that children are meant to leave us. We are responsible for their total care when they are first born and then they gradually begin to care for themselves as they grow older. If we’ve done our jobs well, this is a seamless transition for the child and for ourselves. We’ve given enough attention to their care and development and harmonized with our own as they grow older.
There are some women who have no identity, no sense of femininity, Continue Reading